Relationship Alert 9 Signs Your Boyfriend Doesn't Respect You and How to Handle It ...

One of those issues that can really kill a relationship is a lack of respect. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't respect you? But sometimes it's not as obvious as you might think, and the lack of respect is more subtle. Here are some signs your boyfriend doesn't respect you, and what you should do about it …

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He Flirts in Front of You as if You Weren't There

Is your boyfriend 'a bit of a flirt'? Do you make excuses for him and brush it off as not meaning anything? Well, it's not a very respectful way to behave if you're not there, acting as if he doesn't have a girlfriend. And it's even worse if he flirts right in front of you as if you weren't even there. It's dismissive of you, and it's not just him being charming and friendly. It's rude.

He Puts You down

Does he constantly criticise you? That's definitely not showing you the respect you deserve. Someone who loves you supports you. They don't put you down and make you feel inferior.

He Tries to Dictate What You do and How You Dress

This should be a huge red flag. It's a sign of a controlling man who doesn't respect that you're an individual with the right to choose for yourself. Someone who tries to dictate what you wear, where you go and who you're friends with has no respect for you as a person but thinks you're his property.

He Doesn't Listen to the Word 'No'

Does he ignore you when you say no to something? Does he try to force you to do sex acts that you don't like? A man who doesn't listen to and respect the word 'no' has no respect for you. Is this really the kind of guy you want to date?

He Belittles Your Opinion

Or does he belittle your opinion? Does he laugh at your ideas and dismiss them patronisingly, or tell you flat out that he thinks they're ridiculous? Guys like this have no respect for you. Guys who do will accept that you have your own opinions, even if they don't always agree with you.

Sex is More Important than Anything

Sex is an important part of most relationships, but it shouldn't be the only thing that matters. Does he only ever call you when he wants sex, or pressure you into having sex even when you're not in the mood? That's a terrible lack of respect and shows that he only sees you as a bed partner.

You're His Second Choice

Do you have a sneaking feeling that you don't match up to his ex, or that he secretly has the hots for someone else? You should never feel that you're second best. If he truly values you, he won't be dating you when he'd rather be with someone else. And if he prefers being with his friends, let him be with them - while you find someone who really likes you!

He Repeatedly Lets You down

Be wary of guys that are constantly coming up with reasons for letting you down and cancelling dates. Something may come up from time to time, but if he's constantly cancelling, he's showing that he doesn't value you enough to stick to arrangements.

He's Not There when You Have Problems

Is he there for you when you're sick or need support, or is he nowhere to be seen? Guys who respect you are always there for you when you need them.

Have you ever been disrespected by a boyfriend, and how did you handle it?

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I was in an abusive relationship for nearly five years. I was 17. He started by saying things to put me down then he started beating me and finally he raped me several times. When u go through these things u don't understand what the reality of what's happening. To you this is normal because he had put it in your head. Being so innocent and young i didnt have a clue, i thought i love him and i serve as a woman and i will marry him until i met some old friends and they showed the me the truth and I finally realised the seriousness i became a different person for the worst i was depressed and tried killing myself many times. I walked away and now i have met someone else who is kind, gentle and my best friend. If u dint go through this i wouldnt of been me today. I am strong because of my experience.

Niamh, I guess you should talk to him because of course, for some reason he came into your life and without even letting him know your problem, you're breaking up with him. There shouldn't be anything unsaid. It's better that you talk to him with calm attitude before things go worse.

I do know my husband will not be treating me like trash if the thought crossed his mind I would leave I do know that I'm not weak I know me and what I accept and what I don't . What's next after verbal abuse physical ?

Crazy. Tell me what do you women think if your man looks at a women ass?

Shannon, your comment seems a little rash so I'm just going to explain to you that people are devious. For years you could be dating a man who treats you with the utmost respect until he thinks that he has you and when that happens it is like a 180 turn, you go from being the awesome person he made you feel like to being some stupid person he thinks he owns. That is how abusive, disrespectful, relationships begin. It really has nothing to do with the woman or what she stands for, it has to do with how manipulative the man is.

Kayy that's fucked up

Correction not married to the same person (thank goodness) LOL

After reading this article, I am so happy that I am in a relationship with a great handsome guy who loves me and goes out of his way to make sure I am happy :)

This never has and never will happen to me value your self and the man in your life has no choice but to as well!!! End of story

My ex never respected me. Our relationship was all about him, his friends and what they wanted to do. We've since broken up; I'm a lot more happier now. :)

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