13 Signs That He is the Guy for You ...

By Shannon

We all know the signs he isn't, but what about the signs that he *is* the guy for you? I use my parents as a model for what I want my marriage to be like. They started out as friends but ended up being married for 28 years and would be married for 28 more had my mom not died. They went through deployments, children, cancer and God knows what else and were able to stay together and happy with each other. If you're in a relationship or thinking of getting into one, here are a few of the signs that he is the guy for you. Some seem obvious; others, not so.

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1

He Goes out of His Way for You

This alone is one of the biggest signs that he is the guy for you. I know this isn't about feelings, but if you have someone who is willing to put your needs above his (and vice versa), that's a very good sign for the future.

2

You're Not Afraid to Be Vulnerable

"When you can find yourself lying helpless in her arms..." It's been a while since I've heard it, but I think this line of a Bryan Adams song says it best. When you're not afraid to let down your guard with someone, when someone makes you feel safe whatever the situation, that's something worth holding onto.

3

You Can See a Future Together

"When you can see your unborn children in her eyes...” Yes, more Bryan Adams lyrics. However, they illustrate my point. If you can see a future together, both abstract and concrete, that's a great sign. It does need to be both, or at least have the potential for both.

4

He Sticks with You through the Hard Times (and Vice Versa)

Again, paging Doctor Obvious. You need to be able to weather the storms if you're going to be together long-term. However, not everyone has the same definition of the term, “storm”. For instance, I once dated a man who hadn't had anything worse than a breakup happen to him. When my mother died our last year in college, he had no idea how to deal with me. I don't fault him for not knowing, but he didn't even want to try. Apparently I wasn't worth it. Someone who loves you, however, will think you're worth it and be there for you, even if he doesn't know how.

5

He Encourages You

This isn't about being a “yes-man” so much as wanting you to see yourself as positively as he does.

Famous Quotes

Meaning is not what you start with but what you end up with.

Peter Elbow
6

You Can't Imagine Life without Him

...and not in a "creepy stalker" kind of way. When someone “completes” or even grows alongside you, their presence becomes a major component in your happiness. I'm not saying you'd need *a* man, but you'd need *this* man.

7

He Listens to You

...or at least tries to. This might sound obvious, but you'd be surprised. A man who cares about you will want to know what's going on inside your head.

8

He's Your Best Friend

The passion might be good now, but eventually the honeymoon is going to end. Genuine respect and friendship is what's going to get you through the rough times, not looking good in boxer briefs. If he does look good, that's a bonus. If he looks really good, post pictures. Share the wealth. :)

9

Changes Bring You Closer Together Rather than Farther Apart

When I say changes, I'm not talking about being good or bad so much as how well they match over the long haul. This is why we tell people not to settle down too young -we're still evolving and need to grow up more before we're ready to settle down. Moves, jobs, kids - these things can't help but change us. Your partner may not change in the same ways you do, but couples who stay close through the changes are the ones that last.

10

He Makes You Laugh

Sometimes I get annoyed with my husband when he acts like a kid, but he is usually able to make me laugh. You really need to be able to laugh and share a sense of humor; that alone can take a lot of stress out of your life together.

11

He Does Little Things “Just Because”

This could be help with chores, notes, going out etc. For instance, my husband orders or takes me out when I don't want to cook. I'll put Post-its with love notes in his lunch bag for work. My friend taught his kids to tell his wife how pretty she was. My parents would leave notes like that for each other around the house. The smallest things can make a big difference.

12

He Touches You...

...in ways other than sexual. An old issue of “Cosmo” I read said that men use touch to get sex while women use sex to get touch. I'm not sure how true this is but if he cuddles or holds your hand or whatever just for the sake of doing it, he's a keeper. That's assuming you like being touched; if you don't, he can show affection in other ways. The point is that he does it with no goal other than to be close with you.

13

It Just Seems Right

Because even if you can't always trust your heart, you can trust your gut.

Like I said before, I had a very good example to follow when it comes to love and relationships. I don't mean that you should rush into things or get serious before you're ready, but knowing what you want and what you should expect from a partner can go a long way in finding the person for you. What about you? Are there any signs I've left out, or that you'd remove? If you're with someone, how did you know they were right for you? What is the most important thing to you when it comes to finding a partner? Discuss!

Feedback Junction

Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

okay so I really like this guy in my grade (7th) and I'm getting mixed signals from him. we talk and laugh and we always make eye contact that seams like forever and he always flirts with me, but when I txt him, he usually reads it and ignores my message. sometimes he reads it and won't keep the convo going and other times he texts me back, but he always says "gtg". I don't know if he just likes talking in person best or is just trying to be nice in school. please help me!

I just got out a 3yr relationship almost over a year ago and it's like I'm attracted to some men, but my feeling are still numb. I've became celibate after the relationship and I feel being friends before any relationship is key! Men seem to act like friends but always want to go the extra mile. I just want to know them first! Btw I had a child with the 3yr and that could be part of it too. I still love that man, but there's something's I don't want to be trapped with if years from now we get married. I know it takes time and I'm willing to not give up on him at all! We've been through a lot even to the point some of my friends think it could be toxic.. At this point and time I just want us to work on ourselves, to grow up more you know. I don't want to wait too long and it's too late. Then I think if it's real, it won't be! Sry for the long comment btw

I have known my best guy-friend for years. He's like me more than once and usually between girlfriends. Right now this between us has escalated in a way where we can see each other together in the future and he has a girlfriend! The problem is he lives in a different state and we always call each other and text. I don't know If I actually really like him or not anymore! Do you have any advice?

True looooooooooove

I met the love of my life 7 years ago. So I thought. He met all of these qualities and I was almost 24 I wasn't particularly too young. I've always been pretty grounded so I have t changed that much. All of these things were true of us, but sadly things ended horribly. People can say what they want but you know when it's real. It was real for me, the thing that can mess with your mind is when you don't know if it was ever real for the other person.

I met a guy two year ago through online. We met and was in a relationship for some times. We talked, we sing, we danced and even share our thought like best friend. Not until long, I found out he cheated on me, and went missing for quite some time. And then he appeared in front of me again, telling me I am the one for him. I dont know what can I do, but the trust in the relationship was already broken. It is just hard to find a right guy who think similar and share the same interest. I just hope to recover soon, and wait for the right one to come. Love the phrase " I'm not saying you'd *a* man, but you'd need *this* man. 😍

Wow! My boyfriend is *the* man and he's my best friend

What if he likes to like talk in your face?

Me too! :)))

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