How to Support Your Bestie after a Breakup ...

By Heather

Best friends do so many things for each other, but it mainly comes down to loving and supporting each other. One of the worst things in the world is seeing your best friend hurting, and breakups definitely hurt. The very best thing you can do is be there for her, of course. Knowing how to support your bestie after a breakup involves knowing what makes her laugh, what gets her through the hardest times, and what makes her feel better when she's at her lowest point.

Table of contents:

  1. at first, just listen to your friend
  2. let her vent as much as she wants to
  3. take her to the dog park
  4. queue up all her favorite movies and shows
  5. now load up the best breakup movies ever
  6. she might want to spend some time alone
  7. seriously, let her cry as much as she needs to
  8. don't let her text or call her ex
  9. help her get away for a while
  10. start a new project, just the two of you
  11. load up on all her favorite foods
  12. take her out dancing
  13. or take her out drinking
  14. do whatever it takes to make her laugh
  15. be her sounding board, especially if she's feeling rebellious
  16. tell her how incredibly amazing she is
  17. and make sure she knows you'll never break up with her

1 At First, Just Listen to Your Friend

She's going to need to talk and she needs someone to simply listen, so in the beginning, that's the best thing you can do.

2 Let Her Vent as Much as She Wants to

If she wants to yell, scream, purge her space of all of his stuff, or simply cry, let her get it out – encourage her, even, because she can't heal if she doesn't get it out of her system.

3 Take Her to the Dog Park

It doesn't matter if she has a dog or not, a visit to the park can make anybody feel better about nearly anything.

4 Queue up All Her Favorite Movies and Shows

Your friend might want to wallow for a while, which is totally understandable, and it can help to have some of her favorite movies and TV shows on standby.

5 Now Load up the Best Breakup Movies Ever

Specifically, look for movies where the ex always gets his – that's sure to make her smile, at the very least.

6 She Might Want to Spend Some Time Alone

Don't take it personally. She just needs some time to process on her own – it's not because she doesn't appreciate what you're doing.

7 Seriously, Let Her Cry as Much as She Needs to

Try not to get impatient and don't rush her – crying it out is really cathartic sometimes, and she may just need to get all of her grief out of her system.

8 Don't Let Her Text or Call Her Ex

Even if she gets mad at you, she really probably shouldn't be getting in touch with her ex just yet, especially if things are still raw.

9 Help Her Get Away for a While

Take her on a vacation if you can swing it – even a quick weekend trip can leave her feeling rejuvenated and more like herself.

10 Start a New Project, Just the Two of You

Maybe it's something you've always talked about doing or maybe you just came up with it, but it'll help her keep her mind off her broken heart.

11 Load up on All Her Favorite Foods

Pizza, chocolate, ice cream sundaes, chips and guac – whatever she loves, make sure she has plenty of it.

12 Take Her out Dancing

The two of you should definitely go out dancing – rocking it out on the dance floor might be just the thing she needs.

13 Or Take Her out Drinking

You can also head to your favorite bar for some drinking and dishing – just make sure you keep her safe and supported.

14 Do Whatever It Takes to Make Her Laugh

That might involve doing impressions of her ex, but hey, whatever works, right?

15 Be Her Sounding Board, Especially if She's Feeling Rebellious

As her BFF, it's your job to encourage her desire to get a drastic haircut, but maybe talk her out of getting a faux hawk – just help her know when to draw the line, is the point.

16 Tell Her How Incredibly Amazing She is

Make sure she knows that she's smart, kind, funny, and beautiful, and that she deserves somebody amazing in her life.

17 And Make Sure She Knows You'll Never Break up with Her

She's way too important to you, after all, and you would never want to hurt her like that.

Have you ever helped your BFF get through a bad breakup? It hurts so much to see your best in that much pain.

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