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There seems to be some sort of stigma when it comes to guys and girls being "just friends." While it seems to be a little bit more common (and maybe accepted) these days, you still have people asking the question as if it's really possible. We're here to tell you it is. We know, this is shocking. A guy and a girl can hang out, talk, and be there for each other, all without wanting anything more than a mutual friendship! We're actually huge fans of guy/girl friendships, because you can gain perspective and insight that you wouldn't normally get from just a group of girls. Plus, there seems to be a little less drama (we didn't say none, after all, boys can be high maintenance).
Things definitely can get hard to navigate if your best guy friend has a girlfriend. While you two might not see any problem with your friendship, it can be normal for her to be concerned or jealous about the two of you. That's why there are some steps you should take to make her feel as comfortable as possible with your relationship. She shouldn't have a problem if both of you are honest and open.
Tell him to be upfront about his friendship with you. If she accidentally finds out later, sheβll see red flags and potentially want to end things. Tell him to emphasize that you are just his platonic girlfriend.
Have him talk to her about the details of your friendship so she isnβt caught off guard when she meets you for the first time. And make sure he actually does this and doesnβt just say he does!
This is probably the best way to get her to feel better about the relationship. If you become friends with her, just like youβre friends with him, sheβll feel much better about it. Just be careful not to become the mediator when they fight.
Itβs hard to think of things from her perspective sometimes, but you have to remember that itβs natural. Being wary of another female in his life is how girls are as human beings, and you canβt expect her to be okay with it right away.
How would you feel if roles were reversed and you had never had a platonic friendship before? If your boyfriend had a platonic girlfriend, youβd probably be a little jealous and insecure about the relationship, too. Just think about that when you hear that she had a little fit.
Donβt just limit your friendship with your friend to just spending time with him alone. This will make his girlfriend really annoyed and wary. Invite her to tag along on your hangouts and spend time with them together. This will calm her down, and sheβll feel better about the relationship.
If you ever get the opportunity to talk to her just one-on-one, do it. Take the opportunity to tell her how excited you are for him and their new relationship.
Always be sure to make it clear that youβre not mad or jealous of their relationship in any way. If she knows that youβre really not into him at all, sheβll deal with it better.
You know exactly what line Iβm talking about. You may have had sleepovers when he was single where nothing happened at all, and nothing ever will, but you canβt do that when he has a girlfriend.
You can never cross the line of disrespecting her or their relationship. And also donβt be too touchy-feely or make him feel guilty in any way.
Donβt just be friends with him and ignore the fact that he has someone else in his life. Text her separately from him and invite her to hang out with you guys β make her feel like sheβs a part of the friendship. This can dissuade any reservations she might have about you.
You might actually get jealous of her simply because sheβs taking up a lot of his time and attention and you two might not be that close anymore.
You have to accept that she is a part of his life now, and you canβt be expecting him to ditch her for you like he used to with other friends.
We all know you have dirt on him β dirt that could potentially ruin his relationship if you talk about it. Like the fact that he hooked up with a random girl the week before they got together because he didnβt think she was into him in that way.
You have to watch what you say and how much you share about him just in case he hasnβt had a chance to tell her those things yet. And talking about all the things you know about him that she doesnβt will only make her more jealous.
Girls can be really competitive β especially with a guy around. Your job is to NOT try to out-do her. Let her always look better in his eyes if you want to keep things on an even keel with her.
The issues may not even stem from her not trusting her boyfriend. Chances are, she just doesnβt trust you β and why would she? She doesnβt know you or what your intentions are.
You have to build trust with her before you can expect to handle your platonic friendship. She has to know that you will never try anything with her man if sheβs ever going to feel comfortable with the friendship.
This is the hardest part of being a platonic girlfriend. You have to learn to let him go. He is no longer going to be as big of a part of your life.
More than likely, youβll see less and less of him as his relationship grows. If you really want to handle being his platonic girlfriend when he has a real one, you have to accept the fact that the friendship may slow down a bit.
Being the platonic girlfriend is never easy because someone else will always come before you, and that person probably doesnβt like you. In order to handle it, youβll need to keep these tips in mind.