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17 Very Good Reasons He Might Ignore You ...

By Heather

It might not be nice, but there are some reasons he ignores you. If you're finding that your boyfriend is ignoring you, what do you think are some of the reasons? Do you think that he feels pressured? That maybe he is done with your nagging? To make it easier to see some of the reasons he ignores you, I've compiled a list of the top 17 reasons he not be paying as much attention to you!

1 You're Always around

A guy likes to be able to miss the girl he's with, and he might be ignoring you if you're constantly around for him NOT to miss. Truthfully, you want to make sure that you leave a little mystery to your relationship. If this is one of the reasons he ignores you that you've noticed, make sure that you let him plan a night out with the boys while you go out with the girls.

2 Stress

Sometimes, when a guy gets completely and totally stressed out, it could be one of the reasons he ignores you. It could be his way of dealing with the stress. Or at the very least, it could be his way of ensuring that he isn't going to drive you away, push you away or snap at you.

3 He's Feeling Pressured

Have you been with your boyfriend for a while and you're still waiting on a ring? Or what if you've been dying to move in together but haven't yet? If a guy feels pressured, it could absolutely be one of the reasons he's ignoring you. The best remedy for this is to make sure that you just calm down. Don't pressure him for a ring or moving in – if it's meant to happen, it'll happen!

4 Constant Nagging

When a guy feels like he is constantly being nagged about chores, being nagged about his job and being nagged about – well, everything, it might cause him to shut down. One remedy for this is just to chill out a bit. Change your nagging into soft little reminders and maybe space them all out.

5 Changed Feelings

Sometimes, when you are in a relationship, the guy you are dating might sense a shift or change in his feelings. Instead of breaking up with you, he could just draw away and start to ignore you. If you feel that he is ignoring you, you might want to talk to him about it. This definitely isn't something that you want to just sit on, ladies.

6 You're Too Clingy

If you are constantly clinging onto your man and constantly dependent on him, he might start to resent that. Most men are attracted to not only confidence but also a woman who is independent. If you notice that your man is ignoring you, one of the reasons he might ignore you is because of the fact that you are clinging to him a little too much!

7 Insecure

Insecurity is something that affects every single woman. However, did you know that it affects men too? If a man is really insecure and you keep pressing his buttons, it might be one of the reasons he ignores you. So ladies, lay off your guy, you might see a huge difference in his attitude!

8 Too Young

If you notice that your man is ignoring you, it could be because he is too young. Age does make a difference and sometimes, if a guy is too young, he is also immature, which means that he might not understand exactly what it means to have a girlfriend and how to treat a girl.

9 You Want More than He Does

While many guys like to have a girlfriend, they might not be in the neighborhood for a future wife or potential fiance. Your guy just may like dating you, but not want anything more serious than a simple relationship with no commitment promises in the cards.

10 He's Seeing Someone

I don't suggest you jump to this conclusion first, but this could be a reason why your guy is missing in the act or ignoring you lately. Perhaps, goodness forbid, he could be seeing someone else. I don't think it would be smart to demand to see his phone or stalk him 24/7, but it's definitely something to think about. Oh, and here's a tip: don't question him to death until you find out for sure.

11 YOu Said Something

Don't get all paranoid on me, ladies, but sometimes we say things that guys either don't understand, or take to heart. Even though they pretend they aren't all sensitive, they really care more than they let on about what you say. Have you had a recent conversation about his job, family, your relationship, your career, what he dresses like, other girls, etc? These types of discussions tend to get personal if he takes them to heart. Or, if he disagrees with what you said, and doesn't want to say anything about the issue, it may be another reason.

12 He's Avoiding an Argument

A guy will avoid an argument like the plague. If he senses you're touchy about something, in a bad mood or you're upset about something, he might avoid you to avoid the argument ahead. Instead of getting mad, talk to him about something lighthearted to try to start conversation. Give it time and then see if it might be for another reason.

13 He's a Workaholic

Some guys are workaholics, even at a young age. This is one of the many personality traits among men today, for a very simple reason. Men like to think of themselves as providers, and are usually always striving for more money, power, success, etc. Many guys also throw themselves into their work to deal with stress from other issues. If this is the case, let your guy know that you appreciate his work ethic, but would like him to make more time for you if possible.

14 You're Not Compatible

How much do you and your guy have in common? Do you like to do the same activities, eat at the same places, hang out with similar people? Do you have topics to talk about you can each relate to? If you come from different areas of life, that's fine, but if you don't have any common interests, it could be a reason he ignores you.

15 He's More into Casual Dating

While this is similar to not wanting a commitment, it's not quite the same. Some guys are into seeing girls every few weeks instead of on a regular basis. These are known as casual daters, who usually never settle down either. Know one before you choose one.

16 He Has an Addiction

Believe it or not, your guy could have an addiction, leading him to ignoring you. This could include everything from drinking, to porn, to gambling, to hanging out at bars or strip clubs, and even video games, which is one on the rise today, even in married couples. If he has an addiction, there's nothing you can do besides confront him gently and ask him to get help. Just be prepared because he'll probably deny it and won't accept it well.

17 He's a Jerk

I'm not a man basher, so don't take this the wrong way, but the guy you're obsessed with or in love with could just be a downright jerk when it comes down to it. If you're giving him distance, not hurting his feelings through conversation and if he promises you things and then you don't see or hear from him for a week, he could be taking advantage of you. Consider getting a new guy that you deserve!

So ladies, now that you understand some of the reasons he ignores you, make sure that you take notice of them. If you're nagging too much, it might be a good idea to transform that nagging into something else. These are just my top 17 reasons he ignores you, what about some other reasons, ladies? Have any?

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