It happens to all of us. You're really into someone. You think s/he's into you, too. Suddenly, however, there's radio silence. S/he's not texting you back. You haven't heard from your new crush in so long, you're sure it's over. You start stressing. You start worrying. You start obsessing. You probably start wondering what you did wrong. Stop. Stop all of that nonsense. Although it hurts when someone you like just won't text you back, it's not the end of the world and it doesn't have to drive you crazy, not if you don't let it. After all, there are so many other things you can do!
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Stop Worrying about What You Did
Unless you did something really awful, like poo in his car or sneeze while she was trying to kiss you, it's honestly probably not you.
Send a Lighthearted Text – Just One
Ask what's up, see what s/he's up to – keep it casual, keep it light, and do not keep doing it.
Really, Don't Blow up Her/his Phone
Believe me. I completely understand the urge to keep firing off message after message when someone won't answer you. However, you need to avoid this urge at all costs. You'll be so angry at yourself later, plus it gives the other person so much power. Not to mention, you don't know why s/he's not texting you back. If something came up and your crush comes back to dozens of missives from you, it's not a good look.
Text Your Friends Instead
Your friends can talk you down from the ledge. They'll let you vent, keep you distracted, and help you figure out your feelings.
Try to Reach out in Person
Do you two see each other in person a lot? Well, it's okay if you want to “stop by” her favorite comic book shop or his favorite cafe. Face-to-face interactions can reveal quite a lot.
What I mean is that you might want to avoid spilling your feelings to mutual friends or acquaintances. You don't want it getting back to your crush that you got upset when s/he didn't text back.
Nix the Vaguebooking
Don't post any vague, subtle statuses on Facebook, slyly calling out the culprit who refuses to text you. That's messy, immature, and pointless. Your crush isn't going to magically text you back after you make a passive-aggressive post.
Avoid the Sub-tweeting, Too
Honestly, just avoid getting angsty on social media at all. Don't name names, don't leave hints. It really does make things messy, plus you don't want to be that girl.
Stop Analyzing All Your Interactions
This goes right back to blaming yourself, and it is so unnecessary. Replaying everything you've done and said will drive you crazy.
Don't Fake Text
That is, don't “accidentally” send a text to your crush that you “meant for someone else.” That's transparent and silly, and the other person will see right through it.
Give Your Crush Space
If s/he doesn't want to text you, so be it. Give him/her some space. Use this time to focus on yourself.
Find Ways to Distract Yourself
Go on a trip, learn a new hobby, hit up a concert, clean your room – there are ample ways to distract yourself. Doing so will keep you from checking your phone every five seconds.
Surround Yourself with People Who Love You
Hang out with your friends. Go see your family. Has the cutie at the library been flirting with you? Think about pursuing it now.
Talk to a Mutual Acquaintance You Really Trust
Well, first of all, do you have a mutual acquaintance you really trust, someone who knows both of you? Then you may want to privately ask that person what's going on. Make it clear that you don't want things to be uncomfortable and you understand if they can't say anything, but maybe you'll catch a hint.
Set a Time Limit
You don't need to be left in limbo forever. If you haven't heard back from your crush in three days, a week, ten days – whatever feels right for you – then it might be time to …
Cut Your Losses
At a certain point, you have to realize that this person is not worth your time. You don't need to spend your life waiting on someone else. You're worth more than that. If this person doesn't think so, then guess what? S/he isn't good enough for you.
There's something better for you out there. It's time to move on, even if you move on to simply not worrying about it.
Are you waiting for somebody to text you? Forget that. You're too awesome to sit around waiting for anyone.
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