15 Tell Tale Signs Your Relationship is over for Girls Afraid of the Inevitable ...


15 Tell Tale Signs Your Relationship is over for Girls Afraid of the Inevitable ...
15 Tell Tale Signs Your Relationship is over for Girls Afraid of the Inevitable ...

As hard as it is, sometimes we just need to accept that a relationship is over and move on. Faiza gives you 15 signs to know when it's just not working out anymore. Thanks Faiza!

When in love, we are looking through rose-colored glasses, “La Viena Rousse.” Sometimes we’re so blinded by them that we ignore those very clear signs that a relationship is caput. We do our best to overlook the obvious in place of the positives–that are slowly fading into negatives. You continue to invest your time and emotions into what has become a one-sided relationship, because he hasn’t said those two words we dread hearing: “It’s over!” He’s doing things to drive you away without actually saying you’re done! So, what are the signs we women should NOT overlook? Here you go:

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He is Okay with Making You Cry

person, If he makes hurtful comments repeatedly and isn't bothered by your tears, it's very much over.

This point was generously submitted by one of our readers, Daisha Raymond Garcia. Thanks Daisha! Feel free to contribute your own point at the end of the post. We'd love to hear from you!


Something Seems off with Him

black and white,person,monochrome,monochrome photography,film, If you find yourself saying that “He’s not smiling, not happy, and he’s just not the person I remember he was when we first met,” it’s most likely an indication that it’s over.



image,person,photography,girl,beauty, You remember the times he used to be very attentive. He used to always text, call, Skype, or email you and now...crickets. You’re the one planning outings, most of which he flakes out on. You have to initiate all texts and calls because he’s not doing it. This is usually a pretty clear sign that he doesn’t care the way he did anymore.


Where Are We Headed?

nose,mouth,screenshot,interaction, He’s no longer talking about the direction your relationship is going in because in his mind it’s already over. You’re waiting for a memo that he’s never going to send out. Instead he’s attempting to use that as a way of saying, “We’re done” without actually saying it.


When We Becomes Me

person,blond,brown hair,portrait,timer, He’s no longer including you in anything as if he has no attachment to you. Decisions to do anything and go anywhere no longer include taking you into consideration, but rather doing whatever it is he wants to do. In other words, when he begins to act like a single man, this is a sure sign a woman should head for the hills and take her heart with her.


His Body Speaks Volumes

hair,face,nose,brown hair,hairstyle, Body language tells us many things about a person. A brow lift, lip smack, a lean, a stroke, a gaze, etc… these are all signs that he’s into you. But body language can also tell us when a man is just not that into you. An obvious sign is that he avoids any intimacy at all. If he’s not holding your hand, holding you, touching you, it’s a sure sign it’s over.


Fighting like Two Old Crows

screenshot,KTION,1111111, When he's picking fights with you about everything and anything, it's usually a sign that the end is near. Most will argue that he’s frustrated and has something on his mind, but if any of the other above signs coincide with this one, then the only thing on his mind is getting you out of it!


Trust Your Feelings

black,photograph,black and white,photography,beauty, This is one thing I tell every single woman who asks for relationship advice. It’s something that, if had I followed it, I would have avoided my very own heartbreak. You know when something is over because every part of your being says it is. Trust your gut. It rarely steers you wrong.


He Puts You down

screenshot,see, If you argue fairly often about money issues, what movie to see, etc. that’s one thing, but if he starts putting you down then it’s time to go. If this happens while you’re in the company of family or friends, it’s also a sure sign that things are pretty much over between the two of you. No one should treat you like this, especially while you’re hanging out with other people.


You’d Rather Spend the Night Alone

image,screenshot,singing,photo shoot,PLLGIFS, If he cancels on you and you think to yourself, “I’m so glad I don’t have to hang out with him tonight,” then you really need to consider ending things. You shouldn’t drag your relationship on if you would rather spend your night alone than be with him.


You Start Talking to More Guys

black and white,photography,monochrome photography,monochrome,film noir, This may not be so obvious at first, but if some of these other signs are in the mix then it may be a sign to call it quits with your current relationship. When you start flirting and making more guy friends, ending it is always the right thing to do before you cheat on your boyfriend. Don’t make it any worse than it already is.


You’re Only Having Sex

black,black and white,photography,darkness,monochrome photography, Yes, to some this may sound like a good thing. However, if this is the only good thing you have going on in your relationship then it may be time to say goodbye. You don’t talk to each other, share any common interests and only make an effort to have sex because it’s there. This is no longer a relationship, so do the right thing because you know that inside, you don’t feel right about it anymore.


He Tells You What to do

person,glasses,official, Does your boyfriend tell you what to wear, who you can hang out with, and what time you need to be home? This doesn’t sound like a relationship anyone should be in, so why are you keeping yourself in this one? When you met him he was sweet and loved your friends, but now that he has you things have changed. Well then, so has this relationship status!


There’s a New Girl “Friend”

Bet,person,mouth,human body,abdomen, Has he introduced you to a new girl “friend” of his recently? Well, like I said about you making new guy friends, it’s okay in a healthy relationship, but not in a broken one. If things haven’t been going well between the two of you and he all of a sudden has a new “friend,” then it may be time for you to get a new “friend” too and dump this one!


Your Friends Can’t Stand Him

stage,singing,screenshot, He was a great guy, everyone loved him during the first two years of your relationship. However, now everywhere you go together things seem awkward and he tells your friends weird or mean things about you. If your friends no longer like this guy, then it may be time for you to no longer like him.


He’s Never Sorry

conversation,#Parks,andRec, After an argument or disagreement, have you become the one to always apologize even when you know you’re not wrong? If he constantly puts the blame on you and never says the words, “I’m sorry,” well then you tell him, “No, I’m sorry because this relationship is over!”...the end!

REMEMBER… Most women don’t want to admit that something is over, especially when it comes to a relationship, out of fear of being alone, starting over, losing someone you love. Nothing is harder than being in a one-sided relationship and the hardest part about these particular relationships is the part that tells you to leave. When he’s giving you any of these indications that it’s over without actually saying it, you must remember that you need and deserve to be in a relationship where you feel special, appreciated, loved and most importantly, valued. Don’t wait for the words, look for the signs. I learnt the hard way that love is indeed a battlefield, but that doesn’t mean we have to pick up arms and fight a losing battle. Sometimes the best form of this type of warfare is to simply walk away. How did you know your relationship was over?

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Faiza Rammuny can you PLEASE help me. My bf has been acting really weird lately. He matches at least three of the signs you mentioned. It's making me crazy. We've been dating for nine months now. I'm afraid to have a talk with him about what's going on because I'm scared he's going to say we're over. What shouldi do. I can't keep going on with this. Wondering what's up. Please help.

hey all i have been in a relationship for almost 9 years with my high school sweet heart who happend to'v finished before i did ,when she gott o college s,she got raped by sme guy who offered her accommodation before she get her own.i knew she was a virgin as we had tried to break it buh coudnt as a could bear the fact that a was hurting her,aftr some few month when she visited it was time for us to have sex to my surprise ,i found my self in a whole that i 1st left it tyt as hell.that's when she confused that shez been raped couple of time by this guy n that changed my life up2 today.she began to depressed and got sick where she could not fell anythin.and we were staying n aftr smetime she went to onather college where she is reliving her youth days,when she got thre she told me we needed a break and shez been in a relationship for long now she cant breath she time away from all that .she Became friends with so called good guyz as & she ddnt even visit me for amost 6 months.Aftr that semester she came back to ma house and we stayed toget still we'a on a break due to financial troubles buh she continued living her life.She met a new friend from a rick family and they started hanging together ,this guy was straggling to quit smoking & what this girl told me was she told this guyz to text him when ever he feels like smoking ....they went on & on n they now go to the same church.this girl when we'a together she talks about this guy and all that so.she normally spend the night at his house with the family when she'z not feeling well.this girl is a christian and now last night i asked her after almost 2year of relationship break that what i my to her & she sad she does not know what we are buh if i ask her to give me a way out she told me to pray about it so please show me the way i loved her so mch that i knda like worshiped her i would apologize just for the sick of piece if we had a disagreement.i did everything for this girl,i brought her ahead me on everythin i did her things av never done for my mom even doing the time of the break she'l expect me to give her foot massage cook for get her stuff .....she's a student and m working and a would knock off from work al find her home she'l expect me to do the household stuff and still al do my own laundry..so what do you call that.emotionally there'z no 1 there for me as ma mo is sick ....earlier last week a was talking to my mom and she just confessed her love for this girl & she just tllk it like 'its just too much buh i remember she pressured me to introduce her to my family

So true

I say love yourself more than you love anybody else. Sounds selfish but it isn't at all. It prevents you from being a doormat and being at the emotional mercy of a class A jerk.

Walking away is better than staying in loveless life,love yourself more and don't give up who you are for one who doesn't care,in the end we deal with all of life's lessons alone learn when it's best to bow out even if you still feel love it will eventually turn to anger and hurt if one sided

Is it possible to get some advice? I have been dating this guy for over a year he is a few years older. In the beginning he was so amazing. He was all the thins you would look for. Then somewhere in the mess of months things started occurring. He started telling me what to where. And getting upset when i made plans with friends. I thought he just loved me so much he wanted to see me all the time. Now i am about to start college and i feel like i have missed so much of my senior year. But i love him so much. It sounds cliche but it different than any other relationship. He talks about marrying me and im just like what? And now my best guy friend whom i have known a long time tells me he loves me. And before my current bf i waited for my friend to tell me something and he never did. But now he has and i just think of all the great times we had together. And i kinda miss it. Gawsh what do i do?:(

@KarrieAnn @tali

Thanks for the info. Its just hard and i needed some advice.

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