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21 Ways to Get Him to Chase You Instead of You Chasing Him ...

By Alicia

Tired of doing all the chasing? It's time to turn the tables to have HIM chase you. You're the definition of cool so why wouldn't he?! If you're looking for ways to get him to chase you, here's how:

1 Stop Doing the Chasing. Change Your Perspective on the Game

human action,person,human positions,leg,muscle, These tactics can be used at any point in a relationship, from the very beginnings to well into a marriage. If you want to change up the status quo and find ways to get him to chase you instead of you chasing him, it is totally doable. All you need to do is stop. Stop chasing him. There may a bit of a standstill before the tide turns but if he cares about you, rest assured that it will turn.

2 Show off a Pair of Killer Heels

High heels can help tremendously to make your body appear leaner, taller and quite often, thinner. Being taller will give you a larger presence physically, and therefore much more noticeable when you’re around them and thus more likely for them to decide to chase you. In this way you can use heels to your advantage; small additions like this are good for planting a seed in his mind to ultimately lead him to chase you!

3 Choose a Focal Point

If you’re around him a lot or you see him a lot, consider ways you can draw attention to certain areas in subtle ways. One way you can do this is to choose an area, such as your lips, and aim to find easy ways to draw attention to them. You might consider glossing them up for a luscious shine, or alternatively a matte red lipstick to secretly seduce him into attraction…then the chase begins!

4 Dress Strategically when It Comes to Colours

We all know how much men are attracted to the colour red, right? Well, knowing this piece of info can make it really helpful when it comes to knowing how to dress and what colours to wear around him. Wear the colour red as often as you can around him, as dressing in a bright, bold and vibrant colour is bound to get you noticed!

5 Be Confident. Self Assurance is a Real Turn on

hair,clothing,black hair,blond,hairstyle, Your confidence is most likely the top personality trait that makes you attractive to your guy. There is something about a woman that is self-assured that men find irresistible. Being confident is something that you have to work at. Know who you are and know your worth. Make him work for the prize of you a little bit.

6 Play Hard to Get; a Little Bit of Mystery Can Go a Long Way

clothing,undergarment,underpants,lingerie,active undergarment, This is an old, old trick but it is still around because it works. You don’t want to be too easy of a prize to achieve. Don’t answer the phone on the first ring. Make him wait just a few minutes while you finish getting ready for a date. Most importantly, have standards and actually be hard to get. When you do this, you will be the one that ends up with the prize, a man of integrity.

7 Be Busy. Make Him Feel Special to Have Won Some of Your Time

clothing,leg,muscle,thigh,supermodel, This one is to be handled carefully. You don’t want to be too busy. However, you need to have a life and let him know that you do. Letting him be your whole world isn’t good for him or for you. This will only make you more attractive to him.

8 Have Patience ‘Cos Good Things Come to Those Who Wait!

hair,clothing,blond,human positions,leg, Nothing happens overnight. Like I said, there may be a bit of a standstill before the tide turns. Patience is a virtue, my friends! Give it some time and you'll have him crawling after you!

9 Be Mysterious. That Unknown Quality Will Keep Him Coming Back for More

hair,clothing,girl,lady,beauty, This ties in with #7 (Be Busy). Be coy about how you're spending all your free time - let him wonder! If he's curious, he'll start paying more attention to you. Unpredictability is exciting and you'll have him going out of his way to chase you!

10 Claim Your Own Life; Be in Control and Good Things Will Follow

clothing,dress,photography,beauty,long hair, While you're waiting for things to change, take control of your own life. Now that you have so much free time, take up a new hobby! Start going out with your friends and just enjoy your life! Put YOU first!

11 Keep a Record of How It’s Going

If you’re serious about finding ways to get him to chase you, it might be a good idea to track your progress over the given time. This will remind you of how it’s going and what you’ve tried so far. Additionally, it might also be a good idea to have somewhere to brainstorm ideas.

12 Find Happiness in All Other Areas of Your Life First

face,facial expression,hair,nose,person, The more content you are as a human being, the more likely it is that you will start to give off a confident, sexy vibe that is irresistible to the opposite sex. If you seem like a content and satisfied person in the inside and the outside, he will start to chase after you because he’ll be attracted by your self-assuredness.

13 Don’t Be Afraid to Be Sexy. Own Your Body and Your Confidence

clothing,image,blue,footwear,beauty, Being a sexy woman does not necessarily have to mean wearing skimpy outfits and flaunting your body, it can mean more of a subtle inner confidence and the fact that you are well aware of your self-worth. Having this sexy quality will certainly start to bring all the boys to the yard!

14 Give Him a Glimpse of the Competition

photograph,clothing,blue,image,footwear, Make him see that it is not going to be a simple task to win your affections. Show him that you are a lady in demand and that he is going to have to do something pretty special to win you over. That is when the true chasing can begin!

15 Don’t Be a Drama Queen. Most Guys Can’t Handle That

face,hair,person,woman,lady, A sure fire way to send him running is being too much of a drama queen. Most guys just do not want that level of stress in their lives. Show him that you are a cool, chilled out girl and he might start to make more of an effort in terms of trying to catch your attention and start something moving.

16 Show That You Are Willing to Leave Your Comfort Zone

car,vehicle,automotive exterior,sports car,luxury vehicle, He will be more inclined to engage in the chase if he feels like you might be willing to embrace some of his interests and passions along with your own. Make yourself open to going to the ball game with him, go and see a movie that he wants to see. Things little things can make a big difference.

17 Be More Emotionally Independent

Even though guys like to chase, they tend to stay away from girls who have a tendency to depend on other people and lack their own independence in this way. What guys find really attractive in a woman, though, is someone who isn’t out to control him or anyone else.

18 Be Relaxed about It; Stressing Does You No Good

clothing,dress,sleeve,gown,cocktail dress, In fact, it can work in the opposite way. Being anxious about making a guy chase you can look slightly neurotic from the outside, so just be as chilled as possible and you will find that he takes a liking to your laid back attitude.

19 Be Slightly Less Attentive. He Will Miss It!

person,clothing,human positions,sitting,black hair, Take a step back and stop being so attentive to him, he will definitely start to miss the attention and will try to think of ways to be proactive in winning back your main affections. After all, all guys want it somebody to love them!

20 Always Keep Him Wanting More

human action,person,man,male,muscle, Until you have fully sealed the deal, some mischievous fun can be had in holding a little of yourself back until his goes into full on chase mode. This could be physical or it could be more emotional, but he will eventually want to experience every single aspect of you.

21 Know when Enough is Enough

Let’s be honest, you might have tried all of the tactics from above but it still might not have worked in your favour. In other words, he still might not be interested in chasing you. This is a good time to know when to stop trying, cut your losses and move on! Trying to get someone to chase you can be exhausting as a lot of time, effort and energy often goes into trying to encourage someone else to ultimately do something that you want.

There are definite ways you can get him to chase you. What tricks have you used to achieve this? I can’t wait to read your comments!

This article was written in collaboration with editor Neecey Beresford and Lucy Mansell.

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