2. Friends with Benefits

A lot of people say you can't be friends with benefits without someone developing feelings, which does tend to be true.

But what is going on before those feelings are involved is simply a platonic need to fill ones craving for sex.

If you both find each other attractive, and can turn each other on, then why not enjoy the benefits?

When the feelings do become involved it becomes more then just a physical act.

But again, they are feelings and emotions which is what love is.

So just remember if you want to enjoy the friends part, stick to keeping a clear vision that it is not a relationship!

Remember, having fears of being intimate is something that everyone deals with.

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Comments:

Brianna
That was a great article! I have been with my boyfriend for several months now and The sex we have isn't just sex; it's love.
Heather Jensen
Hi Saki! It sounds like he wants more and more sex and he is just trying to get you back into bed. Truthfully, I think that you can totally do better! ;)
saki
i think #3 is very true. in my experience i have noticed that many boys are hard for hours when we are together, just sitting there having a normal conversation or some other non-sexual activity sometimes even in public. the boy i am currently seeing is so inexperienced and passive (uncertain of how to take the lead in anything) during sex i thought he might be a virgin. after we had sex for the first time i waited for him to contact me and a few days later he told me that my sex is amazing and unforgettable and he's addicted but it's not the only way he thinks of me. he said he felt love when our bodies were connected. he also told me to stop any kind of romantic interaction with other boys. a few weeks later we had an argument through text about abortion (even though i've never been pregnant) and he's been acting distant and cold ever since even though he suggested we have makeup sex one time. i don't know how he feels but i think i'm in love with him. what does it mean if his face is close to mine and he is looking at me and very gently touching my cheek while i'm asleep? i woke up a few times and this was happening.
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