Here’s the truth, break ups are the worst, even when they seem to be completely amicable at the time! Even if you are the one who called time on the relationship, there are definitely going to be moments in the aftermath where you start to miss him, and if you are the one who ended up being dumped, then that will certainly be the case because you will feel like there is a lot of unfinished business! What you really need to try do though, in order to move on, is stop thinking about him completely. Here are nine ways to stop missing your ex.
1. Confront Feelings
The best thing to do is confront your feelings and let them come to the surface, rather than forcing them deep down and letting them fester. Acknowledge that you miss your ex, maybe talk it through with someone, and in the end you might find that all you needed to do with verbalise your emotions for them to subside.
2. Change Your Mind
You can always explore the idea of getting back together with him. Of course, this will only be an option for a small percentage of couples, but it could well be the case that you made a decision too quickly and didn’t give the relationship time to develop.
3. Write It down
Put your feelings down on paper in the form of a letter or a journal entry, it can be very therapeutic. Just like talking it through with someone, the act of physically getting those thoughts out of your head and on to something else can feel very cathartic. You don’t ever have to mail the letter; it is the act of releasing your feelings that is the important part.
4. Distract Yourself
Make yourself as busy as possible with a variety of activities that will help you to keep your mind off of your ex. Spend time with family and friends, read books, go to movies, binge watch TV shows, anything that will provide a little escapism.
5. Self Care
Don’t let your physical or mental health fall off a cliff because you are moping around. Be active on maintaining yourself through different acts of self care, and the more you reconnect with yourself, the less you will think about the person who broke your heart.
Give yourself enough time to heal properly. You can’t expect to be over it and ready to move on within a matter of days or weeks. The longer the relationship was, the longer it is going to take to get over it, and it is perfectly okay to take a long as you need!
Set life goals for yourself that will have the effect of keeping you busy and giving you reasons to look towards the future rather than dwelling on the past.
8. Avoid Trigger People
Spend some time away from the people that are going to remind you of him, like mutual friends that you might have made through him.