The vast majority of us are looking to find true love in our lifetime, but something that I am a firm believer of is that fact that you shouldn’t have to compromise any part of yourself in order to find a relationship that works. If you are an ambitious woman, then you should absolutely do nothing to change that side of yourself. There is an old-fashioned notion that men don’t like women who are too ambitious or above their station, but I think those people were just always talking about the wrong men in general! You need to find someone who loves you for who you are. Here is how to find a partner who will love you AND your ambition!
1. Be Loud and Proud
You shouldn’t mute your natural personality in order to try and impress or attract a guy, because, at the end of the day, you don’t want someone who is looking for demure and shy; you want someone who is going to love you for who you actually are! Men are most attracted to women who they can see as being their equal, so to bag your perfect man, you need to show him that you indeed just that!
2. Take Yourself out
Don’t just sit around waiting for your friends to organise a night out so you can finally get into the dating pool. If you want to find someone badly enough, you should be taking yourself out instead! Head out to your local bar and see what the action is like, or better still, go to some sort of meet up that is dedicated to a hobby that you might have. Meeting someone there will ensure that you have something in common right off the bat.
3. Don’t Downplay
When you find yourself in a situation where you are flirting and chatting with a guy, don’t downplay your achievements and successes in any way. You want him to see you for who you really are, and if he is the kind of guy that you want to be in your life, he will be impressed and inspired rather than be intimidated or jealous!
4. Follow Your Ambitions
Don’t put your own ambitions on the back burner to try and keep a relationship with a man who isn’t being supportive. The true test of whether he deserves you or not is through him standing by you and being impressed by your ambition, so much so that it fuels his own! You should never have to find yourself in a situation where you are playing down your own goals in order to appease him.
5. Be a Boss
Don’t be subservient just because that is what traditional gender roles state you have to do! If he is a man worth his salt, he will want you to be his equal in every aspect of your lives together. He’ll treat you like a true partner in crime, rather than somebody who he now has ownership over. Be a boss in your body language and attitude and this will be the way!