Dating Sucks but Being Single Sucks More ...

You Feel Left out • The PITY • Blind Dates/Being Set up • My Family • "I Wish I Was Single." • More ...

Dating Sucks but Being Single Sucks More ...
By Rosie • Aug 17, 2021 MD

There are some great aspects to being single but no one can deny that there are certain things about it that are not fun! Despite how many times people try to tell you that it's fine, when you're single all you can think is, "what happened?" Here's 7 insights into why dating sucks but being single sucks even more.

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1. You Feel Left out

Being single sucks because...when all your friends in relationships are on group dates you know you aren't going to be invited, and if you are, you know it's out of pity. Also, even when it's not a group date but you know everyone is going to be with their SO, you decide not to go because you feel like you are 'third wheeling it.' Girls nights even just become them texting their special someone and you're left out in the cold.

2. The PITY

I hate when people pity me, just like others hate when their Aunt Martha squeezes their cheeks. It feels demeaning and also brings your single status back to your mind. Being single seems like nothing but pity-especially the older you get.

3. Blind Dates/Being Set up

Being single sucks more than **dating sucks **because most people have friends that try to either send you off to a blind date or whisper, "Hey if you think he's cute I'll get his number for you." First of all if I think someone's cute I will gladly talk to him on my own. Secondly, I would prefer to choose my future BF on my own.

4. My Family

I don't know about your family, but in my family, once you reach a certain age they start to wonder if you're going to be an 'old maid.' Once they start thinking that they freak out and go back to #3...... This leaves you in the awkward position of either owning up to being single or suffering through crappy dates to bring someone with so family shuts up. Either way, single or dating sucks.

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5. "I Wish I Was Single."

I hate that phrase.... I hate it. First of all if you wish you were single then why are you dating someone?! Secondly, don't bash on you own relationship just to make someone feel better because most likely it is just going to p*** them off. These people show that dating sucks just as much as being single sucks.

6. The Questions

"How are you still single?" "But, you are soooooo pretty." "Wow those guys are SUCH fools." Stop. It is not comforting. If anything it makes single girls feel worse because looks can be changed, but what's on the inside is harder to fix.

7. Being Single is a Choice

Whether you choose to be single or whether you were kind of pushed into it, being single is your own CHOICE. Don't let people make you feel guilty or lesser than them just because you are single. It would be like making someone feel bad for being in a relationship.

I hope this is helpful. To the people who are in a relationship, to the people single by choice, to the single ladies out there who needed someone to understand how THEY feel for a change. I know being single sucks and I know dating sucks but we all need to raise a glass to all our single and relationship laden ladies out there! It's about supporting each other, not tearing one another down.

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Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

  • Ranvir

    2019-09-09T23:35:18.989Z

    I’m single
  • Ashley

    2014-07-08T00:21:47.558Z

    even though I'm a teen I know that being single allows you the time to love your self and get to know yourself better so being single is a good thing you should never hate it love it
  • Miranda

    2014-03-15T07:43:29.811Z

    I embrace being a modern women and being able to be on and off with relationships is part of that. I love being single at times of my life and love being in the right relationship at other times of my life. Society has a problem when they can't put a label on a type of relationship, which in turn as a single person can make you feel ostracised at times. I feel humble that we as modern women can choose how to live our lives,have a career, have children out of wedlock, have different relationships, without being vindicated by some archaic religion or law.
  • Taylr_

    2014-03-12T14:47:10.248Z

    Ahh the freedom of being single, a perfect way to grow and become emotionally healthy and strong its so liberating!
  • Imoon

    2014-03-12T13:39:57.790Z

    Loved it because it's true
  • Ariana

    2014-03-14T07:13:26.073Z

    My opinion, I think being single is a bitter sweet kind of situation. I'am a independent woman & love to do everything on my own...but in all reality it would be nice too not sleep alone & be in a relationship where your not just lovers but also best friends -Ana
  • Stephanie

    2014-03-12T14:30:23.340Z

    I just read an article two up from here that read why it's awesome being single... Little weird
  • Ugly

    2022-07-12T01:38:01.617Z

    Single females especially the ones over 45 are treated terrible. It's actually dangerous to be a single woman. If you're not pretty or "young" enough good luck. EVERY woman should be loved, protected and taken care of. Unless some don't want that but try being single especially after a certain age. The world just treats you very differently. You will not be respected. Some cultures hate single women and America is one of those places. I'drather have a miserable marriage than be all alone in the world.
  • QueenB

    2014-12-21T04:45:58.703Z

    Well I am still young but I dumped my bf! I promised myself that I'll be an independent woman for now !
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