3. Listen

If you want someone to listen to you, then you have to listen as well. I know that when I'm feeling like the Better Half isn't listening to me, I sometimes get all smug and self-righteous about my own listening skills. You can't get on that train, because it won't take you anywhere you really want to go. You need to listen to the things your partner says and the things your partner does not say – sometimes you can learn a lot in those silences.

Don't Beat a Dead Horse