Have you ever stopped to think about how many different types of flirting you engage in? Whether you realize it or not, you probably don't just flirt with guys in hopes of finding a boyfriend. However, it's certainly nothing to be ashamed of—it's an important social skill that requires plenty of practice. Here's a look at the types of flirting that we've all engaged in:
1. Flirting to Get Something
This is one of the best types of flirting for gals who are hopelessly lost when it comes to hooking up Blu-ray players or assembling anything from Ikea. Just twirl your hair, bat your eyelashes, and sweetly ask a guy friend if he can help. You don't have to try to make him fall in love with you—just stroke his ego a little. Guys love to rescue a damsel in distress. And if you feel guilty about using your feminine wiles to get something, just reward the guy with a plate of chocolate chip cookies.
2. Testing Our Flirting Powers
Maybe you felt like you needed to up your flirting game, so you researched new flirting methods using the world's greatest dating guide: Google. But how will you know that these new methods work? You've got to test them out, of course! So you head to your favorite bar and try "accidentally" bumping into a few hot guys. If you manage to snag a number or two, then you'll know that your new methods work. Now you've just got to decide if you want to pursue anything more with one of your test subjects.
3. Flirting to Make an Ex Jealous
If you're in a situation that calls for you to be around your ex a lot, then you might want to make him jealous by flirting with other guys. Maybe you want to win him back and are hoping to make him see just how desirable you are. Or perhaps he's a cheating scumbag and you simply want to show him what he's missing. It's probably not the healthiest behavior, but we've all done it. And who knows? Maybe one of the guys you're using to make your ex jealous will turn out to be dating material.
4. Flirting to Outdo Another Girl
Admit it—you've flirted with a guy just because some girl you can't stand was into him. Maybe she was always all over your ex, or perhaps she's constantly throwing shade your way (which is probably just because she's jealous). You might notice that she has her eye on a certain guy, so you decide to target him, too. However, you should remember that another person is involved here—you really shouldn't use the poor guy just to hurt your nemesis. But if you think that he's cute and worth getting to know better, then go for it.
5. Flirting to Get a Self Esteem Boost
Sometimes a good flirt can be a great way to get a self esteem boost. If you're suffering from one of those days when you just don't feel like your fab self, simply try to get your flirt on with someone. Just put yourself out there by chatting to a guy at the gym or the grocery store—they'll probably feel flattered that a girl actually talked to them first, and they might return the favor with a compliment that really brightens your day. Sometimes all you need to boost your mood is a little interaction with a cute guy. But you won't get an interaction like this if you stare at the ground and try to avoid talking to anyone. In other words, don't stop being a flirt just because you feel down.
6. Flirting Online or via Text
This type of flirting is great for all the shy gals out there. Sometimes you might have a hard time thinking of the right words to say to a guy when you're getting all weak at the knees while gazing into his gorgeous eyes. So if you want to make sure that you say the right thing, try texting or instant messaging him. This way you'll have more time to think about what you want to say, and you don't have to worry about stammering all over your words or blurting out something embarrassing. You also might be more likely to express your true feelings instead of putting on an act in an effort to impress him.
7. Flirting Because You're in Love
Of course not all flirting is vengeful or selfish. Sometimes you just fall head over heels for a guy, and you just can't help yourself. This can be the most awkward type of flirting because those love goggles totally throw off your game. You stumble all over your words, blush like crazy, and giggle a little too much. But when you're so smitten that you can't remember anything you learned about flirting, none of those silly rules really matter anymore, right?
Flirting can be fun, useful, and even a little mean. Just be sure to always think before you flirt to make sure that no one gets hurt. So have you indulged in all of the different types of flirting?