5. Do Your Own Thing

While togetherness is really important and your marriage should be the number one priority in your life, it is also important not to forget that you are two unique individuals.

Donโ€™t completely lose yourself in your marriage.

It can be a difficult balance to achieve.

It helps to look at it this way: have many things that are involved in your marriage but donโ€™t forget to cultivate your own interests and friendships too.

You will have more to talk about when you come back together at the end of the day.

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Ive always wished my boyfriend and I would work things out before we go to bed, but honestly sometimes we just need the space and Im realizing thats fine too. If I try to push the subject, it just ends up backfiring. Im realizing its totally okay to let us sleep on it, and we always work in out and talk first thing in the morning. Every couple, and every disagreement is different, treat it as such.
Alicia Fannin
Hi @Kortni, Thank you for your comment. I always felt exactly like you and still think that it is best to work out your difference before you go to bed. But I have been reading a wonderful book "The Surprising Secrets Of Highly Happy Couples" and one of them is go to bed mad because you are calmer the next morning and things do not seem as big of a deal to either of you. The key is that you DO resolve the issue. Just another perspective. You may enjoy that book- completely Christian based. It also gives a bible verse to back up giving yourselves time to think over things overnight. (Psalm 4:4)
I really don't think going to bed angry is ever a good option. I'd rather stay up all night working things out than go to bed with my man on different pages. A lot of time the things we are angry about are just misunderstandings that don't need as much compromise as explanation. Even the Bible advises us not to go to bed angry.
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